I Wish I Knew This Sooner about Pelvic Health and Everyday Wellness

After nearly two decades working with women as a pelvic health specialist, I’ve realized that most of us were never given a user’s manual for our bodies. We were taught how to HOLD IN our bodily functions as children, but not how to breathe, move, or care for the parts of ourselves that make up our foundation. This post gathers some of the most life-changing lessons that can help you feel more comfortable, confident, and self-connected.

If I Could Sit with You for an Hour… Here’s What I’d Tell You.

Please sit down and enjoy a cup of tea with me as I take you through things I wish I'd known sooner about pelvic health, pleasure, lifestyle, beauty, mindset, and everyday wellness!

🎥 Here's the video, and keep reading below the video for a summary in written form. 

Your Pelvic Floor Is Part of Your Core

The pelvic floor isn’t an “extra credit” muscle group — it's foundational; it’s the base of your core. When you engage your abs, the pelvic floor should lift gently too. This is zipping up your core. Notice the sensation of a subtle inward and upward engagement — not a clenching, bracing, or sucking-in. The goal is strength that's responsive, not rigid.

Most women overdo it, believing more effort equals better results. Instead, back off. "Zip up" your core with about 20% less effort than you think you should use. You should still be able to breathe and move while activating your core. Strength doesn’t come from gripping; it comes from intelligent engagement.

Breathe Like Your Body Depends on It (Because It Does)

Your breathing diaphragm and pelvic floor move together. When breath is shallow or held, the entire system becomes tense which impacts digestion, continence, posture, pain, and emotional regulation. Practice slow, audible sighs throughout the day to release tension, calm your nervous system, and gently move your core from top to bottom.

Also use this exhale when lifting, pushing, or getting up from the floor — “exhale with exertion” saves your pelvic floor over the long haul.

Stop Pushing to Pee or Poop

We’re taught potty control, not potty release. Many people strain to urinate or have bowel movements without realizing it. Instead, think of “opening a hatch door” at your pelvis. A gentle sniff that expands the belly can help drop tension and encourage release without pushing. This supports healthy pelvic muscles, prevents constipation, and retrains your nervous system to let go — not force. Read this book for more! 

Poor Posture Matters More Than You Think

Phones have turned many of us into a human "C" — head forward, back rounded, tailbone tucked. This compromises breathing, core function, spinal alignment, and increases the risk of pelvic organ prolapse.
Untuck your pelvis, open your chest, lift your head back into alignment, and move your body often. Prevention is a far easier path than repair.

Daily Vulva Touch Is Body Literacy

You should know your anatomy better than anyone. Touching your vulva with your own hands increases blood flow, nourishes tissue, supports pelvic floor function, and helps you build comfort and confidence. This is not about orgasm — though pleasure is welcome — it’s about connection, education, tissue health, and embodiment.

Arousal Takes Time (Way More Than You’ve Been Taught)

Women’s erectile tissue is extensive and needs 30–40 minutes to engorge fully. That engorgement — not muscle tension — is what creates natural “tightness” and enhanced pleasure. Fast, rushed, friction-focused sex often results in pain and guarding. Slow touch builds sensitivity, lubrication, and safety. Your body is speaking to you; discomfort is information, not a nuisance to ignore.

Nourish Your Body From the Inside Out

Hydration, healthy dietary fats, and nutrient-rich foods support hormones, skin, and energy. Broccoli sprouts are a powerhouse for hormone balance and inflammation — easy to grow, quick to eat, and surprisingly satisfying.

Skin loves oil topically, too! For many women, oil cleansing and removing heavy foundation supports more glow, less irritation, and a softer, more natural radiance. My favorite topical blend: jojoba oil, rosehip oil, and frankincense essential oil. (Sometimes I add a touch of thick, rich castor oil too!)

Try Softer, Not Harder

Modern culture rewards constant output and effort, but bodies thrive on cycles — activation and rest, strength and softness. Instead of pushing to maximum capacity, practice slowing down, doing less, and syncing your habits to your body’s needs. Less force often leads to better results, physically and emotionally. ESPECIALLY if you're a woman with a menstrual cycle... HONOR your cycle. Rest when you bleed.

If any of this landed for you… If something inside your chest softened or opened… Then take that as a sign that you’re ready for the next chapter of your own healing.

This is the kind of depth, honesty, and whole-self support I bring into all my programs and in-person work.
Not just exercises. Not just information, but a true mind–body–lifestyle approach to pelvic freedom.

If you’re ready to go deeper, choose the path that calls to you:

• Lift — for foundational pelvic strength and confidence
• Overcome — for healing tension, pain, and fear
• Or join me in person for retreats and bodywork

Wherever you go next… trust yourself.
Your body is wise. She’s worth listening to.
And you are so much more powerful than you’ve ever been told.

I love you — and I’ll see you for your next chapter.